A beginner's guide to dirty talk virtually or IRL
Publicado: 2023-08-22 10:54:15
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You don't need to be an erotic romancer or fanfic author to rock dirty talk. All you need is a little bit of confidence, a willing partner (you do!) and this dirty talk guide. Continue reading this post to see dozens of examples of dirty talk that you can use with your partner, it doesn't matter. Watch now, copy and school, repeat or read later.
Consent and respect are fundamental
You should always check-in before starting or dirty talk personally or by text. It can be said:
⦁ “I just remembered a very sexy dream about us. Posso tell you about?”
⦁ “You will scratch for bed and give me prazer. Do you have any interest in dirty talk with me as soon as I do this?”
⦁ "I can't stop thinking last night... do you want to hear about this from my perspective?"
⦁ “I'm out of ~humor~ I know what you understand or what I want to say. Are you open to exchange some texts with classification +18?
⦁ “Sometimes, during sex, I lick my mouth. Before we continue, I just want to see how you feel about this. Do you like dirty talk during sex?
The start of a conversation is also a good time to understand and avoid trigger words for each other. Discuss what dirty talk will entail to ensure you stay within two limits and everyone's wishes. For example, perhaps in your opinion "big tail" is a praise, but your partner may be considered a criticism of its weight. Or maybe you like to be called "vadia" during sex, but or asked to chamá-lo assim tira your partner at the moment. Basically, you must negotiate words in advance, just as you would 'negotiate' any other sex. See how it can be:
⦁ “Is there a name you like to be called in bed? 'Baby'? 'Tramp'? ‘My whore’?”
⦁ “Before we start, I want you to know that I find doggy-style and any reference to it to be a trigger. So I'd like to keep this out of our verbal and physical game. Do you have any preferences?"
⦁ “I like my genitals called 'cock' or 'cock'. Do you have a preference?"
Confidence 101
Everyone gets nervous when it comes to sex, at least sometimes. Even though it may seem complicated at first, trust is key. And if you still don't have it, fake until you make honey. For example:
Be Enthusiastic: No matter what else you're feeling, lead with enthusiasm. Enthusiasm with the partner demonstrates desire. What if he/she feels wanted? He/she will be more likely to help you feel the same way.
Don't overthink it: Can you create an elaborate costume with handcuffs, a fire-breathing dragon and a multi-orgasmic sex session? Of course, if this is the kind of verbal conversation you and your partner have agreed on. You can also simply describe what you are doing or what you would like to be doing!
Make sounds: If you're together in person or exchanging audio, make some noise! A “mmm”, “oh baby”, “oh yeah”, “yes” or a sound similar to a moan will encourage your partner to continue what he is saying or doing.
Ask: Another option when you get stuck is to ask your partner a question. For example:
⦁ "Hmm, and what do you want me to do back for you?"
⦁ "Is this what you want? Tell me more."
⦁ "Yes? What would you do next?"
⦁ “And then?”
If you are exchanging messages
Over text, unlike the IRL, you have the gift of time. Time to extract the experience and time to be creative in what you say. Combine the sexting examples below to create the sexiest virtual sex conversation you or your partner(s) have ever had.
Create anticipation
⦁ “I can't wait to send you a picture of the new lingerie I bought when I get home.”
⦁ "When I get home from work, I'll come with you just talking."
⦁ "Are you going to be a good boy for daddy/mommy tonight?"
At the time
⦁ “I'm so excited. Am I allowed to touch myself, Master?”
⦁ “I wish you could touch between my legs and feel what you do with my body.”
⦁ “When I close my eyes, I can practically feel the way your hands trace the lines of my body… the way your fingers know exactly where my hot spots are.”
Requests
⦁ "Tell me exactly what you remember about the first time we had sex."
⦁ “Describes in detail. Leave nothing out.”
⦁ "Are you going to tell me what you would do to me if I showed up at your door in my uniform?"
Acknowledgements
⦁ "You know exactly what to say..."
⦁ “In a single text, you can make my breath hitch, my eyes roll back, my heart race.”
Later
⦁ “After seeing what you can do with my body just talking, I can't wait to see what you can do with your mouth and hands…
⦁ "Wow. I'm amazed at how SEXY this was! I'd love to do it again sometime if you want too."
⦁ “I'm exhausted after that orgasm. But before I put my phone away, I want to check: is there anything you need or want from me to make you feel good about how this conversation ended?”
If you like audios or calls
Update the sexting session with the voice? Use these one-liners to sound like a phone sex operator (aka a dirty talk pro)! Trust, your partner won't know what hit them.
Create anticipation
⦁ “I'll take off my clothes to touch myself more easily while I think of you.”
⦁ "I can't wait to make you moan my name tonight."
⦁ “When you finish the job, I will call you and bring you to orgasm over and over and over again…”
At the time
⦁ “I'm remembering the time you tasted me in that park. The way you crawled between my legs and licked me like a dog licks a bowl. You teased me until I pulled you on top of me."
⦁ “I watched a porn video. Can I tell you about my new ideas?”
Requests
⦁ “I want you to take off your underwear for me. Do you do this?”
⦁ "I won't let you come until you send me an audio begging me to let you finish."
⦁ “Send me the link to your porn video. I'll get inspiration to fuck you later."
Acknowledgements
⦁ “I love the way your voice sounds when you're filled with desire.”
⦁ “For a good boy, you say the dirtiest things. And I love it."
⦁ “I love hearing your breath catch in your throat when I say something that turns you on.”
Later
⦁ “Wow, I had no idea phone sex could be this good. Thank you for sharing this experience with me.”
⦁ “That was really sexy. How was it for you?”
⦁ "Would you be open to staying on the phone with me and just breathing until I recover from this orgasm?"
If you are in person
What you say will depend on whether you're able to be ~physically intimate~ at the moment or not.
If you are together in public
⦁ "If these people weren't around, I would fall to my knees right now."
⦁ “I can't stop thinking about taking you to the coat closet, stuffing your mouth and fucking.”
⦁ "When we get back to the hotel room, I'll help you come over and over again."
If you are somewhere private
⦁ “I want you to tell me about the porn you watched last night while I suck you.”
⦁ “You are my favorite flavor. I could stay between your legs all night.
⦁ “You look so sexy, lying there, waiting for me to bust your ass…”
Now just take advantage of our tips and rock your dirty talk!
