A Beginner's Guide to Pegging
Publicado: 2022-09-23 14:52:28
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Thanks to “Broad City,” “Weeds” and “Deadpool,” pegging has slowly crept into mainstream sex. Still, you are likely to have questions about this.
What is pegging?
When the term was coined by sex counseling columnist Dan Savage in 2001, it was intended to name the scenario in which a cisgender woman wears a strap-on for anal penetration of her cis male partner. But the term has evolved to be more inclusive than that. The defining characteristic of pegging is that there is anal and strap-on sex, not the assigned sex or sex of the partners who do it.
Why do people like pegging so much?
Umm…why wouldn't you want to try something that can feel good physically, emotionally and mentally?
It is physically good for the penetrated
Most people with a penis have a nerve-dense prostate gland that can be accessed through anal penetration. It can even help unlock a prostate orgasm, which is usually fuller than other orgasms. If the recipient does not have a P point, anal penetration can still be good. After all, the anal canal and anal entrance have as many nerves as the head of a penis (about 4,000).
And for whom does it penetrate?
Yes really! The base of the vibrator can press pleasantly against the mons pubis or the clitoris. Rocking against your partner can feel similar to dry sex, which is how many people experience their first orgasm.
Inversion of script
In most heterosexual couples, one partner traditionally performs penetration while the other partner is penetrated. Pegging changes these typical roles, which can be psychologically and emotionally great for all parties.
How to approach the subject?
You can't just show up at your boyfriend's door tied up or throw him a vibrator in the middle of the game. Yes, you have to bring the matter up before then. You can say:
⦁ “I recently read an article about pegging and I think it might be very interesting to explore together. I would love to send you the article and talk about it later. What do you think?"
⦁ “I think it could be a lot of fun to explore togetherness. Have you ever been interested in exploring the pleasure potential of your prostate?”
⦁ “I love it when you touch my ass during sex, so I'm thinking I might like something bigger. Would strap-on anal play be something you would be willing to talk to me about more?
⦁ “I recently stumbled upon an educational pegging series and was curious… Would you be open to watching it with me?”
Who knows, maybe he's intrigued too, but he's too nervous to talk to you.
What to wear?
You need at least one harness (strap on), vibrator/dildo and lubricant.
⦁ Strap-on or Harness
However, you have two options here: you can buy a vibrator or dildo and a strap separately or buy a strap-on, which is a set that includes both. For first-time peggers, the strap-on may be the best option. Because? One word: ease.
The advantage of buying the belt and vibrator/dildo individually is that you can customize the experience. The penetrator can choose a belt he likes, and the receiver can choose a vibrator/dildo he is excited to receive. Strap-style belts have a jockstrap-like aesthetic. They are much more adjustable than underwear belts, which can help the wearer feel more in control.
⦁ Lubricant
If you remember one thing from this guide, do this: Silicone-based lubricants are not compatible with silicone toys, which is what most dildos are made of. Opt for a gel-like water-based lubricant. Depending on the types of stimulation you and your partner enjoy, there are some other sexual aids you can consider, such as cockrings, bullet vibrators, etc.
Pegging: a step by step
Lubricates receiver anus and vibrator/dildo shaft until both are nice and smooth. Better yet, have the receiver use a lube applicator to lubricate the anal canal walls as well. Now, position yourself. The raised missionary position will allow you to read each other's facial expressions, or doggy-style, which can help open the anal canal.
Have the person penetrating press the tip of the vibrator against the inlet of the receiver. As they exhale, the receiver can lift their hips to slowly receive the vibrator at the speed that works best for them. Continue this pattern until the receiver is fully adjusted to the vibrator. From here, the receiver can push, make circular motions, or stand perfectly still. Receiver choice.
Post-Pegging
Well, peggin sex in general is pretty vulnerable. This is because having something enter your body can be emotionally (and physically) intense. Pegging also posits the person who is generally doing the penetration as the person being penetrated.
Many men, especially straight cisgender men, haven't had anything inside their anus before, so this is a completely new experience for them that can trigger unforeseen emotions. Pegging is not just emotional for the receiver, it can be for the person penetrating as well. It can be especially emotional for trans women and men, who are using pegging as a way to explore being more sexually dominant for the first time. For all these reasons (and more), it's mandatory to check with each other when the harness comes off and the underwear comes back on.
The penetrator should check in with the partner to see how he is feeling and if there is any way to provide support to the person being penetrated. This can come in the form of cuddling, getting water, telling them how much they love and mean to them, etc.
Need to take any precautions?
Anal sex is safe. But there are some precautions you need to take to limit the risk of passing a check (defecating during penetration), pain and infection. Poop is a very small risk, but you can reduce the risk even further with sucking. But, contrary to popular belief, pegging doesn't knock the poop door. Poop is not stored in the anal canal, which is what is being inserted during anal sex. It is stored in the colon.
In order for poop to pass from the colon to the rectum, the anal canal, and eventually the toilet, you must voluntarily contract the muscle that pushes the poop out. That said, some poop residue is possible. Especially if the cleaning job is inferior.
Pregnancy is not a risk, but STDs can be
If one or both have a sexually transmitted infection (STI) or do not know their current status, STI transmission is a risk. This includes STDs transmitted by bodily fluids, such as gonorrhea and chlamydia, and those transmitted by skin-to-skin contact, such as HPV and herpes. To reduce the risk of STD transmission via pegging:
⦁ Use a condom over the vibrator/dildo.
⦁ Avoid using an oil-based lubricant if you plan on using a latex condom.
⦁ Change condoms if you change who is being penetrated.
⦁ Purchase a vibrator/dildo made of a non-porous material such as medical grade silicone.
⦁ Wash the headgear after each use.
Reduce the risk of pain by going slowly.
The anal canal is so delicate and vulnerable to microtears. But this is avoidable as long as you follow the golden rule of anal: smooth, slow and chatty. If the recipient partner experiences any of the following symptoms days later, he or she should see a healthcare professional:
⦁ bleeding
⦁ persistent pain
⦁ wounds
⦁ lumps
