The Most Popular Types of Sex Toys for Lesbians

Queer women have always liked sex toys! If you're curious about sex toys, it can still be scary to try something new in an intimate context. Understanding the different types of toys that exist can help alleviate this nervousness.

Just like sex itself, sex toys can make you feel euphoric in the right context. But they can be fraught with shame and stigma when your identity feels invalidated. Many sex toys are still constructed in cisnormative and heteronormative ways, but if you know where to look, there are plenty of brands run by queer people for queer people.

Learning to express your desires and identifying what you want to experience is a process. It's a place to start thinking about what those desires might be when it comes to sex toys. One of the amazing things about queer sex is that there are endless options. Sex toys are another fun thing to add to the list. If lesbian sex is going to last four hours anyway, you can have it all.

Sex Toy Safety and Consent

Let's start with some safety tips... If you're going to use toys with someone else, getting active and ongoing consent is key.

Maybe you want to share your toys with a partner, with several partners. The only way to find out is to ask yourself. Consent to use a toy once is not consent in the future. Consent to use a toy is not consent to a different kind of toy. Ask explicitly about each step of the process. It's important to check how someone feels about penetration, especially with sex toys.

It is also important to know what materials your toys are made of. If it's inside your body, use non-porous, body-safe materials like hard plastic, shatter-resistant glass, stainless steel, or silicone. Porous materials, such as rubber or silicone blends, can carry germs and cause infections, even when cleaned consistently. For silicone toys, look for products made with body-safe silicone.

Sex toy cleaning care

Sex toys need to be washed after each use and between each partner to prevent STIs. How to clean it depends on the composition and whether the toy uses batteries. Also, read the instruction manual. Seriously, you're putting that toy inside you. For reusable sex toys, use mild soap and warm water and make sure they dry completely.

Using vibrators in the bedroom

Vibrators come in all shapes and sizes for all types of genitals, not just vaginas. When choosing a vibrator to masturbate with, think about what you like most about sex. If you don't like penetration, there are many vibrators designed for outside the body. There are rabbit vibrators designed to stimulate the clitoris and G-spot at the same time. There are also many vibrators for anal or penis play.

Other things to consider – how intense do you want the speed to be? Do you want softer materials or do you want to try something hard like stainless steel or glass? Do you want to use it in the shower or bath? Do you need a quieter toy so you don't wake up a roommate?

When you want a partner to use your vibrator on you, give her a quick tutorial. Set them up for success! When deciding whether to use your toy with your partner, you can ask the same questions about what works best for her pleasure. But get on the same page before turning anything on. Btw, you don't have to choose just one either.

Dildos of all shapes and sizes

Dildos are objects that go inside the vagina or anus. If you're interested in trying anal play, it's important to find a dildo specifically for that. They can be made from silicone, metal, or shatter-resistant glass. We have double and vibrating dildos. They come in different lengths and widths. Some look like penises, others don't look like them at all. If you don't have orgasms with penetration, you don't need to use them until the end.

Strap-ons for beginners

Strap-ons can be an exciting addition to your sex life and can be used for all kinds of play. If you've chosen your favorite dildo, you can buckle up!

To start, make sure you have a harness that fits comfortably. Some harnesses wrap around your waist and legs. Others are designed like underwear with a hole for the dildo to pass through. If you are using a double dildo and your harness has a backplate, remove the backplate with the clasps. So the double dildo should be minimally easy to use.

We recommend moving around when using the harness alone before using it for penetration. It's another matter for you to find out. It may take a little practice, but no one is judging your technique. Have fun!