How to have a happy sex life
Publicado: 2023-10-13 14:46:50
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Whether you've been in your relationship for 30 days or 30 years, you may have concerns about your sex life as a couple. Having a happy sex life has been linked to everything from better heart health to better relationship health. But what constitutes a happy sex life?
Some people believe that a good sex life is based on how often you have sex. Others believe that multiple or mutual orgasm is the key. In fact, none of these things are vital to a happy sex life. There is no magic number when it comes to quantity. What matters is that each partner feels safe and comfortable and is having pleasurable sex.
What is significant is a couple's ability to communicate about the kind of sex they want to have. Let's look at ways to improve your sex life together and how this can also improve the quality of your relationship.
How to talk to your partner about sex
It may seem difficult at times, but talking to your partner about sex is an investment in your relationship. Here are some ways to speak effectively:
- Schedule a time in advance to talk about sex: By putting this conversation on your agenda, you eliminate the possibility that this conversation will arise out of anger or frustration.
- Discuss what's working and what's not: Many problems couples face in the bedroom can be fixed with a conversation. Find ways to compromise so you both feel safe and heard.
- Make suggestions to your partner about what you want: Positive suggestions usually work better instead of complaining about things they are already doing or not doing.
- Being honest about what you want: However, don't convince your partner to do anything he doesn't feel comfortable trying. Also don't allow your partner to do the same to you.
- Be open to each other's ideas: Be willing to compromise with him as well, so you both feel heard and get what you need.
- Be clear and honest: This will avoid less room for miscommunication. Don't make your partner read between the lines. If you want something but aren't comfortable verbalizing it, try writing it down.
Happy Sex Tips
Improving your sex life takes work and planning. Contrary to popular belief, this does not cause the romance to be withdrawn. In fact, working on your sex life as a couple can be a good way to put the romance back in your relationship.
• Do not hold anger
Anger is a normal part of life. Sometimes people even have sex in anger. But uncontrolled anger can stifle sexual desire, confidence and connectedness. It can be hard to feel tender, loving, or sexual with someone you're angry with.
If you are angry with your partner, find healthy ways to deal with this emotion and let it go. This can be as simple a solution as talking about the situations that arise and that bother you. In some cases, this may require the support of a therapist or mediator.
• Explore your own body
Experiencing masturbation can be a good way to learn about your likes and dislikes sexually in a safe and comfortable way. Some couples also find masturbating together to be arousing and a beneficial way to learn about each other's bodies.
• Don't pretend anything
Sometimes, it may seem easier to fake an orgasm or your desire, rather than talking about why it didn't work out for you this time. You may want to avoid hurting your partner's feelings. You may also want to end this if you are exhausted or can't turn your mind off. But it can be detrimental to both intimacy and your ability to enhance sexual encounters together.
Being honest about your sexual experience with your partner can leave you feeling vulnerable, exposed or embarrassed. It is, however, a good way to start the conversation about your sexual needs so that they can be addressed and met.
• Don't skimp on foreplay
In movies, two people can look at each other across a crowded room and be ready for sex with nothing more than a hurried, albeit passionate, kiss. In real life, it rarely works like that. Foreplay is often an integral part of preparing for other types of sex.
The type of foreplay you engage in is also important. Help your partner learn where you like to be kissed and how you like to be touched. Talk about what excites you both.
• Don't skimp on post-sex
The time you spend together after having sex is also important. If you fall asleep right away or jump out of bed and pull away from your partner after having sex, you are missing out on the opportunity to get closer to each other and create greater levels of intimacy.
Talking or hugging each other after sex is a way to validate your relationship and show your partner that he or she is important to you. This kind of intimacy is important to your relationship and each other's self-esteem. It also helps set the stage for better, more connected sex in the future.
• Stay in sync over time
No one's sex life remains static. In the early stages of your relationship, you may have sex several times a day or week. Later on, the frequency with which you have sex may decrease for a number of reasons. Libido also changes over time. Scheduling sex might sound like a diversion, but for many couples, it sets up a framework they can count on and look forward to.
It is important that you establish a schedule that you both agree on. This may require reprioritizing other tasks in your life and separating them from one another. It may also require compromise if one of you wants to have sex more often than the other. Scheduling sex also reduces the fear that one partner will repeatedly reject the other when he's not in the mood.
• Set the stage
If sex is on your agenda for the night, increase your anticipation and desire for each other during the day. You can do this by sending sexy text messages or photos. Consider sharing passages from a sexually explicit novel that you both enjoy. Develop your own sense of anticipation and excitement by letting your mind wander to the evening's upcoming activities as well.
• To experiment
There is a wide range of sexual activities that you can explore as a couple, as long as you both feel comfortable. This can include everything from using toys and erotica to bondage sex, tantric sex, and more. Nervous or kinky sex is not, however, the key to a happy sex life. Mixing it up can be as simple as wearing different types of clothes or choosing new places to have sex.
You can also include the use of new positions and types of sex, such as oral sex, mutual masturbation and anal sex. Trying out new ways to give both of you pleasure can be a wonderful experience in the closeness of the couple, as long as it is discussed and agreed upon.
Address health issues that may be hurting your sex life
As people age, body changes can make sex painful or difficult. Menopause can cause vaginal atrophy and dryness. Changes in hormone levels can include reductions in testosterone production. This can reduce sexual desire and cause erectile dysfunction. Medications can decrease libido or make orgasm difficult. If you are having difficulties with sex associated with a health condition, talk to your partner and your doctor.
Benefits of having a happy sex life
Sexual satisfaction has been linked to multiple health benefits. The type of sex you have can affect the benefits you get. Here are just some of the benefits:
⦁ Working on your sex life can increase feelings of desire and improve libido.
⦁ Sex releases feel-good hormones, such as endorphins, which help relieve stress.
⦁ A happy sex life can deepen your feelings of intimacy with your partner.
⦁ People who enjoy sex with their partners experience greater happiness and more life satisfaction.
⦁ Sex is a form of exercise and can improve cardiovascular health.
⦁ Vaginal sex increases blood flow to the vagina and reduces vaginal atrophy.
⦁ Vaginal sex can also help strengthen the vaginal muscles and reduce pelvic floor dysfunction.
⦁ Frequent ejaculation can help prevent prostate cancer.
